Most of you know that I recently changed jobs, and if you didn’t, educate yourself.
I now work for and with my mother-in-law. Yes. You read that correctly, mother-in-law. Most of you are probably like, “girl, nah. what are you doing?!” Or like “we moved out-of-state so I didn’t have to deal with my mother-in-law.” BUT if you’re lucky, you have a mother-in-law like mine. She’s probably reading this right now; Hiiii!!
Manna Ko– a visionary, dreamer, wonder-woman, entrepreneur…everything she touches turns to gold! I was so nervous to meet her when Michael and I first stated dating; I had made the mistake of looking at photos of her beforehand…have you seen her?!
Pure joy, unmatched beauty and a fierce spirit! Alright, enough sucking up. But Manna, please keep this in mind when my 90 Day Review comes up. Smiley.
This Noted isn’t about working with her, but you better believe that’ll come up at some point. Stay tuned. For now, it’s about the challenges I’ve faced in these 3 weeks of working as an entrepreneur.
Calling myself an entrepreneur; that, in and of itself, has been a challenge. When I hear this word I think of extremely badass business people who have their “ish” together. People who have a plan.
“Phoebe, do you have a plan?” “I don’t even have a ‘pla’.”
I’m Phoebe with barely a “pla.”
I’ve never said more times in my life, “I am not cut out for this.” Goodness, Kayli, give yourself a break. It’s barely been 3 weeks. Something I have always called myself is a “Jack of all trades.” Which, sure, sounds great, but to me, it meant being good at a lot of things, but never actually being great at any of them. Another mini-challenge has been reading 3 books in the past couple weeks, but its opening my mind to thoughts never surfaced before. One of the books I’m reading is Grit by Angela Duckworth. She quoted a man named William James, a Harvard Psychologist,
“the human individual lives usually far within his limits,
he possesses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use.
He energizes below his maximum, and he behaves below his optimum.”
My word! Grit is identifying the talent, but not resting on it. Exercise the talent by throwing some elbow grease into it. We so often don’t even give ourselves the chance to succeed without bowing out before it really gets good. I’m giving myself the chance to succeed. I’m giving myself the chance to become an entrepreneur.
Time management. When do I stop working? When do I start working? If I sleep in, is the boss’ son going to tell on me? Are weekends a thing? Is my whole week a weekend? How many times am I allowed to go to the beach? How many times can I post about going to the beach before she starts questioning if I’ve done anything at all?
These are all the things I think about, people! I’ve asked so many of my friends any of their tips and tricks regarding their self-made schedules. Some people have figured out the best time of day for them to work. Some don’t work from home, some do. I’m guessing the families that hold two entrepreneurs, one or both are eager to find another place to work. Not that I have experienced this, personally, but that coffee shop has really nice lattes…and tables…and plugs for my laptop charger. (Love you, Michael) I’ve started writing to-do tasks for each day to hold myself accountable, and I’m realizing slowly but surely what works for me. I’ve written before about this being our hustle season, and I still believe it is. I’m going to work hard, of course, but I will learn when it is time for rest. After all, Manna says, “Rest is a strategy for success.”
SNACKS! Which I suppose goes hand-in-hand with self-control. I’ve never heard food call my name the way it has been these past few weeks. And so often. Shut up, brownies!
Seriously, its a real struggle. We now have to be extremely aware of the food that comes into this house so I can be extremely aware of the food going straight to my hips. Is this an issue for anyone else? I mean, its right there. All the time.
I actually want to start a series of blogs regarding those who work from home. How to stay motivated. How to say yes to grit and no to sh–sugar-y things. Just have to do some trial and error. And then trial again. Until I succeed.
It’s a challenge, but I’m learning. I am totally capable of this.
“You’re going to roll this vision of yours out for the world to see,
so be bold when you do…
[and] if their jaws don’t drop a little bit, you need to think bigger.”
Cameron Herold – Vivid Vision